It is not easy to get your children to listen to you, and sometimes it is mission impossible for them to follow your orders. Don’t worry, all fathers and mothers go through this at some point in their parenting. Children have other priorities in their life (such as playing or exploring the environment), and that is why, sometimes, it may seem that they do not listen to you.
But it’s not that they don’t listen to you, it’s that you have to do it right. Maybe you pay attention to them, you get on their level to talk to them (you bend down and look into their eyes), you talk to them with affection … And they still do not pay attention to you, then what should you do? Many parents lose their cool and it is when they scream and lose their temper, thinking that that way, their children will learn to listen to them, but this is not always the case … far from it.
When we get angry, children feel insecure and scared; the moment this happens, they will stand up or flee from the situation. In her effort to defend or protect herself, she will not listen to you at all because she will feel you are threatened. They won’t listen to your message because they don’t want to hear from someone who treats them badly; it’s that simple!
That routines are not lacking.
When things are expected, they are easier to do. Most of parents’ communication with children consists of scolding. It’s no wonder children don’t listen. The more routines they have, the less you have to do as a sergeant.
What kinds of routines? Habits, such as what children do before leaving home, brushing teeth, using the bathroom, packing a backpack, putting on shoes, etc. If you have young children, the good idea is to take pictures of them doing these things and put them on a small poster, so they know what and when. In this way, you can ask questions like: “What do you have to do just before leaving home? Let’s see your schedule ”.
Listen to your son
If you are looking at the screen of your mobile while your son is telling you something important to him, what do you expect him to do with you when you want to talk to him in the future? You will be modeling an inappropriate form of communication with the family.
Start doing this when your child is young and keep doing it when your child is a teenager. We assure you that with the passage of time, you will appreciate having done it.
Understand what he wants to tell you so that he understands what you want to say
Most of the time, when kids aren’t “listening,” they just haven’t tuned in to you. But if your child seems unable to process your instructions repeatedly, he may have an auditory processing disorder. In this case, you should take your child to the pediatrician for the necessary tests.